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It is what it is.

Or is it?

If I've said this a hundred times, I've said it thousands of times.  Just last week in reference to about 15 things at work.  I've also said it bunch of times regarding items in my apartment.  For instance, the last few years I've been living in the same place with these two problems: the water pressure in my kitchen sink is terrible and a small nail has been sticking up between my dining room and living room.

2 years, I've been living like this!  2 years people!

Well, I came home last night and those two items are now fixed - FIXED!  I thought they were just things I had to live with, but it ends up that's not the case.  Now, this makes me wonder whether that's the case in the rest of the areas of my life.

I think we even say this about ourselves.  For example:  I fly off the handle easily and that's just the way I am.  or I gossip every chance I get and that's just the way it is.  I am who I am - take it or leave it.  Matthew Kelly discusses this in his book Rediscovering Catholicism in regards to reconciliation.  It's an excellent chapter, I highly recommend.

He also suggests that with time in the confessional we can begin to eradicate these weaknesses.  Is it the same for the other things that 'are what they are' in our lives?

Maybe with our current thought process with the current amount of information, 'it is what it is.'  However, if we research more, ask people with a different perspective, and address the issue in a new way - we can improve our situation.  We can change our situation.

So, this week, I will refuse to believe that a problem 'is what it is' and I will explore new avenues of thought, new perspectives of vision, and change what is into what it can be!


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