That's usually the problem. Once when I was still working at the parish, Fr. C asked if I had a thought about something. I replied with, "Of course, I have an opinion about everything - that's the problem."
And it's true. I know what I like, and I've usually made a decision about something before I even begin speaking about it. I can brainstorm, but I have to tell myself that's what I'm doing before I begin so I don't get married to a particular thought, idea, plan, or way of doing things.
A few weekends ago I was with my family at my godmother's 50th Anniversary party. I spent some time with my grandmother's sister, Aunt Betty. I was sitting in one of the most beautiful places on earth, my godmother's porch.
I read this article on the Catholic Match Institute earlier this week. About true alpha males and females, not people who are just big-headed and think highly of themselves.
Alpha Theory 2.0The alpha theory 2.0, when it is applied to the human species, applies to both men and women, single and married. In my opinion anyone can be an alpha. What are some of the qualities of a true alpha and how do we go about becoming a true alpha?
True alphas are in possession of themselves and do not let their passions rule their lives. The alphas will be moderate in their consumption of food and alcohol. They will get enough sleep and sufficient exercise.
They will be attentive to their physical appearance, and will order their homes.
Alphas bring light beyond the physical realm, the alphas will have a well-ordered spiritual life. They will be diligent with their prayer life, spending a few moments at least each day in silent conversation with the Lord.
They will strive to know the Lord better by reading the scriptures, and they will call upon the saints to help them practice virtue.
The true alpha will avail themselves of the sacraments by making a holy Confession often (the church recommends at least once a month) and attending Mass every Sunday. (source)As I read that it reminds me of my grandmother. Some aspects bring me to mind - but there is so many areas where I need to grow, so many virtues I need to practice. My 'decision making' is what brought the idea to the front of my mind. I know what I want and I strive to do whatever I can to make that happen. But it also means that I get an idea in my head and can't let it go until it's fulfilled. This is great for things like "do yoga everyday" or "repaint your kitchen cabinets" or "be a loyal friend" or "commit to praying the Rosary everyday." It's not good when it's "So&So at work is annoying" or "Just do it my way" or "Your way is ridiculous" or "I'm not in control."
So taking one small step today, determined and decisively, to be more like these two amazing souls who make up my grit and hustle and are looking down on me from Heaven either shaking their heads with my ridiculousness or, more likely, cheering me on and supporting me.
|Oh and that's Baby ME with grandma & grandpa!|
I was pretty cute!