Oh, so chivalrous!Chivalry should not become a lost art and we, as women, ought to step up to the plate a bit more and encourage men to treat us as women, thereby respecting them as men. Do you have tips, ideas, or stories to encourage men to be... men?! Open doors for us, initiate dates, honor us as women, etc? Let's chat! (Thanks to Sarah Thérèse!)
My thoughts on this topic are varied and a little confusing even for me, but I will try to articulate it without sounding like I am complaining, which I am not.
I think chivalry is a lot about how it makes men and women feel, perception, and realizing we are all connected in this crazy world instead of living for ourselves. I also think chivalry is not just about men doing things for women, but human beings taking care of human beings. All that being said, here's a story to bed illustrate my thoughts.
About a month ago my friend who was recently ordained a priest drove down from where he's doing research in NC to visit me for a Sunday afternoon. We had dinner, explored Charlotte, visited a few churches, enjoyed a sweet at Amelie's, and checked out my new house. It was a lovely afternoon. Mostly because I got to hang out with my friend, but also because I was reminded about what my standard for a man is. This guy has always been so kind, thoughtful, and considerate of others - not just me, not just other women.
Some things that made the evening feel so lovely were:
- Each time we got into the car, he opened the door for me. Not because I wasn't capable, I am. That's not the point.
- Every time we entered a building, he opened the door for me.
- At the end of the night when he dropped me off at my apartment, he walked me up the stairs to ensure I was safe.