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NAS: Encouraging Men

We seem to always have something say about guys treating us right! Or, not right! But, what does that mean? Have you ever thought to share those insights so guys have a better idea on what to say/how to act? Well, let's do it! What are some good habits guys can take up when dealing with us ladies?


Well, we've talked about Chivalry before. I just reread that post yesterday because I was looking at my blog stats and noticed that it is my most read post. I thought, "what made that so good?" But if you remember it, or clicked over just before getting to this sentence, you'll remember that I was talking about a priest friend of mine who was so kind to me when we last got together (and always has been). 

Last week I had a similar experience when I did some errands with Fr. C (our associate priest) to prepare for an event we were having with the 20s & 30s of the parish with our new Aquinas' Finest efforts. Such a gentleman. I think these are skills they teach in seminary! But anyway...

How can we encourage? I think we can be grateful, kind, and respectful in return when men go out of their way to be kind to us. I don't have a special formula of how I want to be treated by men, not really. It's how I want to be treated by all people, and how I try (key word) to treat others.

Cindy's post today (I Am Just An Average Girl) hits many of the points I would also say. What should a man who is interested in me do? Simple, pursue. Be a man of character who says what he means and means what he says. Understand the value of hard work and be able to admit where his areas of weakness are by asking for help. Value the opinion of the Lord over the opinion of the world. Be more concerned over the state of his soul than building up a reputation with his peers or co-workers. Living a virtuous life worthy of sainthood rather than pursuing the emptiness of worldly accolades. 

Young Catholics are caught in a crazy culture war right now. The world thinks what is up is down, what is left is right, what is wrong is right - and we are having a hard time standing up for what we believe and know to be true.

Real men understand this and are striving (even when they stumble) to be a shining light in the darkness. 


Check out what the other ladies have to say over at Morgan's (Natalie's is particularly great today) and say HI to Jen!

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  1. I just love you. :)

    Great post!!

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    1. Thanks Girl!!! I'm pretty taken with you as well!

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  2. Amen. Amen. Amen. Pursuing and striving to be a saint is what I am talking about!

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  3. This is about the most delayed comment in the history of comments, but I have had "comment on NAS posts" on my to-do list for too long! I love that you expanded on what you mean by men pursuing. I hear that word used a lot, but it *definitely* needs a clear definition. Otherwise, we'll be getting stalked, and stalking is a crime.

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    1. Stalking is a crime - and definitely not what I'm after! Thanks for the comment - delayed or not... I haven't written in ages and am even incredibly delayed in my reply! We're a good pair!

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  4. Haha! The Internet never forgets. Sometimes that is a good thing.

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