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NAS :: Readiness

How ready do you think you are for your vocation? Are you ready to be committed to your vocation within the next year, or two years? That means being married (and maybe with a baby), taking religious vows, or telling people you’re not interested in marriage and plan to remain single for life. What do you still need to work on or change about yourself before you’re ready? Have you thought you were ready before? How have you become better prepared over time? Married ladies can chime in, too: how did you know it was the right time to get hitched?

Linking up with the ladies in the Not Alone Series this week as it's been way, way too many weeks. This group has been such an amazing help to me in the past few years with the amazing friends that I've met and the support system that they have become. This seems like a good topic to enter back into the writing mood and linking up with the group.

A few questions in this week's prompt strike me. Let's begin with Have you ever thought you were ready before?

Yeah. I'll say I've been ready to be a wife and mom for a long time - but there was one definitive moment almost 5 years ago while I was away with some kids at camp and praying about my future. I felt distinctively that the Lord was telling me that a husband was coming and that it would be sooner than I would feel it was ready for. Now five years later, I am still no married. I don't feel unready - but I do not have the same feeling in prayer either. I don't know if that's what the Lord has in store for me. 

Second question to consider What do you still need to work on or change about yourself before you're ready?

Um, a lot. Everything. I need to be better at submitting my will toward the other. I need to not be so selfish. I need to act with more humility and be a stronger woman of faith. I need to be more open to the Lord and His will. I need to feel better about my body. I need to clean up my eating habits. I need to kick my sugar addiction. Intellectually I know that these things are not the reasons why a man hasn't asked me to marry him (or date him) - but they feel like things that are wrong with me. They are definitely things that I should work on to be a better wife to this man once we are married. To give us a fighting chance of having a marriage that lasts until dead instead of divorce.

Final question to consider How have you become prepared over time?

In so many ways that I cannot even write them all down - some more profound than others. I know how to rely more on myself to my emotional well being than someone else. I can cook better. I'm stronger in my faith. I'm better able to take criticism and make changes to improve. I am better able to have discussions about topics that I feel passionate about. I have more control over my emotions in public. I'm more confident in myself and my abilities. I have a job that I love and am good at. 

All of these make me a better human being and therefore it would make be a better wife. I'm sure than during the time between now and when I do meet my spouse, I will grow even more into a better human being and better wife and mother.

Check out the other ladies and their thoughts this week over at Lindsyy's at the NAS Link Up.


  1. I definetly need to work on being less selfish. I don't think I am as bad as I once was but sometimes I think being single makes it really easy for us to get into a habit of doing whatever we want whenever we want...when you add a boyfriend/spouse/kids into the equation it throws things off and we need to figure out how they can work into our lives when we're always not the priority.

    I liked what you said how some of the changes are things you should be doing anyway and if you did them it would make you a better person as well as a better wife.

    My take on readiness along big life decisions (a baby goes with this as well) is if you wait until you are ready you'll never do it.

    1. That's definitely true - if you wait to do anything until you feel ready, you'll be waiting forever. Grace builds on nature!

  2. Love it! I think we can always be working on being better people, so I like your perspective on how that will make you a better wife and mom. And I am so with you working on being less selfish! I think that's a really hard part about single life. We're told that love is all about total gift of self, which is beautiful and awesome. But it's just difficult to fully live that out when you don't have people under your same roof (a family or religious community) to sacrifice for. Gah! Maybe a future topic?

    1. Might be good ... how do you bend your will to the other, when you live alone - not even a pet fish to give preference to? Funny ... but seriously - tips for rooting out selfishness when you're single and live alone. That would be a great topic!

  3. I've felt a whisper from God before. It was more "religious life is not for you," but it sounds something like what you experienced. I'm glad I'm not the only one still waiting!

    1. I feel like I hear that repeatedly by mega phone ... but cannot figure out why I'm still sitting alone single on a Saturday evening. What is the Lord doing?! Well, I know he has a plan, but so many times - that's what I'm thinking!


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