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NAS: Loneliness

We all have times when we feel alone. What are ways that you combat loneliness? Pray? Join a group? How can we encourage each other to stay positive? Thanks to Laura P!

This week's topic is loneliness. I have many thoughts on this subject, and many instances of feeling this feeling - they don't all really go together, so I'm just going to bullet point my thoughts and see what happens!

  • When I bought my townhouse and starting living alone, I thought I would be lonely. And there are times when I wish I had someone to come home to at night, a shoulder to cry on, or a listening ear to let go of all the craziness of my day. But most days I'm actually glad for the quiet, for the peace, and for the ability to do yoga in the living room, watch three episodes of Jane the Virgin, and cook whatever I please without having to do someone else's dishes before starting. Most of the time, at home, I am alone, but not lonely.
  • As all of my friends get married, buy houses, and have kiddos, who I love - I needed a group of people who were in a similar place that I was emotionally, ie: single. So I started going to events at the parish in Uptown's Young Adult Ministry. Now I lead their bi-weekly Spirituality Group where we have about 12 to 15 people who gather to study the upcoming readings and learn more about the faith. Although not many of these have turned into real friendships (ie: we get together at times other than the every other Wednesday scheduled group), I do appreciate getting to know others and being able to discuss my faith, learn from my peers, and grow the Kingdom.
  • This weekend at Mass the psalm response was "Praise the Lord who heals the broken hearted, praise the Lord." As we were singing that over and over, I could only think about when my heart is most broken and how the Lord comes into the picture. I was thinking about how He wouldn't have to keep on healing it if He would just stop breaking it! He gives me a glimpse, a nice young man who sits in front of me one week at Mass and even an evening of conversation with him - and then he never comes back! What is the Lord doing? Seems like if He worked on the thing breaking my heart then He wouldn't have to keep healing the brokenness. Now, I know that's not really how this works, I know that there's more to all of our lives than just 'give her a husband and all will be well again.' If there's brokenness, then not only can a man not fix that, the expectation that he will is too much of a burden to lay on one person. But it sounds pithy and fun.
So for the times when I'm feeling most lonely I get together with friends, read a great book, pray the Rosary, spend time in Adoration, indulge in a glass of wine or a piece of dark chocolate, and wait for the feeling to pass because it's just that - a feeling, not a state of being.

And this tune helps too!

Thanks to Morgan for hosting this week and Jen (oh and happy 30th to Jen - just 32 days until my own) for always being there to support! See you all next week!


  1. Love that song, Katie! That's awesome that you're leading the spirituality group, too. I hope you're able to meet some great people through that!

    1. It's been a great way to meet new people! Good young adult events are great for that!

  2. I have assigned my married friends to keep an eye out for single men for me. I don't want to be single; they want me to be married. Everyone wins, haha! It also helps that I'm not the only one among my local friends who is *still* single. People do keep showing up and pairing off quickly, but we old-timers are holding it down.

    1. haha "old-timers are holding it down" ... seems like that is the case around these parts too!


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